Ok…. I KNOW I have not posted in a long time! I am sorry to those that read it regularly!! Don’t leave me… 😉 If the truth is to be known- I am pregnant- and needless to say the first few months were not very fun. Blogging time was not on the list of activities to take priority when nausea and fatigue are plaguing me. SO ANYWAY…. now that the first trimester is over…. here is what I have been doing…. I guess it could be called a book review… what has this world come to? Me? Writing book reviews?
My three year old son has recently been totally enthralled with Peter Pan and he will be enjoying it more and more as we are making a costume for him for the upcoming Halloween holiday. I got to thinking about Peter Pan and the play, and the different versions I have seen… and wondered of the authors true meaning of it…
I am one who LOVES a good “back story.” And as with many movies based on books from the 1800’s-early 1900’s such as “Alice in Wonderland”, “Charlie and the Great Glass Elevator”, and the ever vague “Wizard of Oz” books, I knew Peter Pan had a back story and I went on a quest to find it.
So I picked up the original story which is called, “Peter Pan and Wendy” by Sir J.M.Barrie. This particular volume had a wonderful biography in the front of the book by Sir Barrie’s grand-nephew, David, who describes Barrie’s life and reasons for Peter Pan. It was very intriguing.
On with the story…
So many people will have a different take on the meaning of this story, but as Barrie’s grand-nephew explained, Barrie had a particular compassion and deep understanding of children and how they “tick.” And as never having had children of his own, an understanding of the loneliness of being without family. As I read the book I found a few concepts very fun and very inspiring.
First and foremost for me was the concept of “Neverland.” Neverland is a place we all have been. All children go there in their dreams, and Peter Pan is always there as the epitome of a care-free child’s life. No mother. No mandated clothes. No mealtime. No rules. Only adventures, leadership, and selfishness. He will never leave Neverland.
But as the book comes to a close, we learn that Mothers hold the upmost position in the world for the sanctity of make-believe necessity for children. For without a mother, one cannot go to Neverland. Because mothers understand why Neverland is important. And mother’s offer an ever watchful eye that their children are keenly aware of. This “knowing that they are always cared for” offers the ability to dream and experience Neverland.
So children without Mothers, rarely go to Neverland. And if they do, they rarely leave.
Captain Hook, was one such boy. Motherless, yet thru circumstances not explained, grew up in a posh school and was engraved with the desire to always show “good form” and to dress appropriately… these things never left him, however, his desire to be loved- the thing lurking in every soul- was forfeit by his piracy and black life, which in the end destroys him.
In the end, as I closed the book- having grown fond of Neverland- I realized how this book, written in the time it was, was probably a big deal- something not written about often. Children, mothers, make-believe lands and the need to dream. I don’t think children were looked upon as people with many real needs. And this play or book, to me, tells of the importance of family, of Mothers especially, and moreover the essential need of Neverland for children AND for adults to not forget. A place for children to escape and dance freely- a place that only a mother’s love can send them. For children without mothers don’t dream of Neverland. They don’t feel safe and secure enough as they sleep to dream of such things.
And as we grow older, we may forget how to fly, and forget Neverland, but we mustn’t rob our children of the experience of Neverland. It is our job to tell them of it. To plant in their minds the possibility of dreams and make-believe. Also the importance of not destroying our children’s games and ideas that they come up with. (After all, they may have really experienced it in Neverland!)
I loved it. It was an illustrated edition, and the pictures were fun. I think its like 200 pages or something. Pick it up one day and enjoy it!