There was a time, when I looked in the mirror, and thought these words:
“Well, this is just the way you are. And if you don’t feel happy about it, you are going to live in constant misery and never feel like you are happy about who you are. Embrace it, consign yourself to it, and just let go of your want to be thinner. Your husband loves you the way you are, and no one cares what size pants you wear. It’
s your personality and your accomplishments that will make up the difference for your appearance.” Anyone relate????????
And while some of those things WERE TRUE, those thoughts were the result of a more serious issue. Denial that my own choices had led me to that place, and that my own choices, though difficult, COULD get me out. Let’s face the magic here people. Its not how fat or thin I am. Its not the clothes I wear. Its not my spouse. Its not my religion, or my mother that makes ANY of my choices. Its ME. I CHOSE to settle. But you know what? I couldn’t swallow it. I KNEW deep down, that that choice went against core values that I have. And THAT is the MAGIC!
This quote hits it on the head:
“When your actions conflict with your values, you’ll end up unhappy, frustrated, and despondent. In fact, psychologists tell us that nothing creates more stress than when our actions and behaviors aren’t congruent with our values.” -Compound Effect
I KNEW that I wanted to be more healthy. I KNEW I wanted to be a trim, athletic woman without ROLLS to try to hide. I KNEW that I wanted health and vigor and vitality. I KNEW I wanted my children to have an active, positive, able mom. Someone they would want to be like, someone they would follow and love not just out of cultural normalcy, but out of respect for who I had become and what I stood for. And being overweight, hormonal, constantly pulling at my clothes and feeling uncomfortable at the swimming pools, and feeling like a 20’s flapper girl running after them at the park (you KNOW what I’m talking about!) Not to mention the amount of pain pills I was taking for headaches and PMS. My core values were SCREAMING at me that settling at my current weight and physical state was NOT an option. I had to figure out a way to change it. There is ALWAYS a choice. You are NEVER stuck where you are.
Are you being true to your core values? Or have you settled? Message me if you want to take a leap, and try something new for your health. My dream is to help others stay true to their core values and realize there is HOPE—– no matter where you are in the journey, whether male or female, older or younger. There is something for everyone.